Hii guys :)
I just read bekka's blog from the 12th i think it was. well yeah writing does help but in moderation guys im not sayin go an write random stuff whenever :L
I think she's right on some levels but im not gonna say never go out with your best mate because you need to take risks in situations like that, whether its right or wrong.
Now, im gonna try an explain how i see things like this so bear with me :L.
if you think of "life" as a colouring in book or a blank page or something similar :P
you have to choose which colours your going to use an you normally try to get them to go and not to clash but these risks or w.e are the ones that are gonna clash. sometimes it turns out ok and its better than it was. sometimes its not.
we all do things that we wanna change but we have to learn.
I did something that maybe some people think is wrong. i did too untill it happened. but in the long run it made my picture a hell of a lot more exciting an better. you can't control some things.
so yeah. i know it doesnt make sense probably but its my opinion on bekka's lastblog, sorta .
see ya
Bex x
Saturday 26 September 2009
Saturday 12 September 2009
12th september, midnight
hey guys. it's been a while.
i guess i should write a blog on here. becca's right when she says that writing stuff helps when you have a lot on your mind.
there's one thing i specifically wanna talk about; the way relationships can ruin a friendship.
never ever date your best friend. in the long run, it's not gonna turn out pretty. and you run the risk of losing a great friend. sure you can say 'oh but we're such good friends, if we break up we'll still be best mates'. it's not likely to happen. friendship means more than a realtionsip ever will. when it comes down to it friends are eternal. relationships fade and friendship fades with it. if you have a best friend, no matter how much you might love them and how right it might seem for you to get together, i'd highly recommend you don't. if you break up, things will probably never be the same again. you'll look back on the time you were friends and wish it could go back to being that. and you'll look back to the days, weeks or months you were a couple and miss it and no matter how much you try it'll be so hard to be around them knowing what you once shared. you'll never be able to stop thinking 'what if ...'. i think, no matter how close you are, even if you're practically dating as friends, don't let a relationship ruin a friendship.
leave some comments. tell me what you think ? am i being silly ? or is that a valid point ? you tell me !
beks x
i guess i should write a blog on here. becca's right when she says that writing stuff helps when you have a lot on your mind.
there's one thing i specifically wanna talk about; the way relationships can ruin a friendship.
never ever date your best friend. in the long run, it's not gonna turn out pretty. and you run the risk of losing a great friend. sure you can say 'oh but we're such good friends, if we break up we'll still be best mates'. it's not likely to happen. friendship means more than a realtionsip ever will. when it comes down to it friends are eternal. relationships fade and friendship fades with it. if you have a best friend, no matter how much you might love them and how right it might seem for you to get together, i'd highly recommend you don't. if you break up, things will probably never be the same again. you'll look back on the time you were friends and wish it could go back to being that. and you'll look back to the days, weeks or months you were a couple and miss it and no matter how much you try it'll be so hard to be around them knowing what you once shared. you'll never be able to stop thinking 'what if ...'. i think, no matter how close you are, even if you're practically dating as friends, don't let a relationship ruin a friendship.
leave some comments. tell me what you think ? am i being silly ? or is that a valid point ? you tell me !
beks x
Sunday 6 September 2009
6th September 09 8.50pm
hey. how you all doing ?
well just thought i'd write something since its been a while. an i have stuff on my mind. you know writing helps ?
Right. its all about chances. people always ask for a 2nd chance, dont they ?
Well my theory is and i may be wrong but if somethings important then surely you shouldnt need a 2nd chance because you grabbed the first?
But yeah we all let stuff pass us for whatever reason. Its pretty stupid.
It happens all the time with relationships especially. It gets annoying.
It when you start talking to someone and you think there could be something but your not sure what the other persons thinking an you dont wanna cross "the line".
Sometimes i just think stuff it you live once, cliche i know, but its true the amount of people you hear saying what if. . . .
it just shouldnt have to be that way.
Later.
Becca x
well just thought i'd write something since its been a while. an i have stuff on my mind. you know writing helps ?
Right. its all about chances. people always ask for a 2nd chance, dont they ?
Well my theory is and i may be wrong but if somethings important then surely you shouldnt need a 2nd chance because you grabbed the first?
But yeah we all let stuff pass us for whatever reason. Its pretty stupid.
It happens all the time with relationships especially. It gets annoying.
It when you start talking to someone and you think there could be something but your not sure what the other persons thinking an you dont wanna cross "the line".
Sometimes i just think stuff it you live once, cliche i know, but its true the amount of people you hear saying what if. . . .
it just shouldnt have to be that way.
Later.
Becca x
Monday 17 August 2009
17th August 11am
Hiya guys :)
Thought i'd just comment on Bekka's blog last night. I completly get what she means. Sometimes it's best just to be honest, especially with your best mates. We had a similar conversation a few nights ago and we realised that we are truely best mates and i wouldn't change anything, if you can't be yourself with your best mate are you true around everyone else?
The other night i asked bekka about what should i do about this one guy and she told me if i still liked him after everything and i know what he's like then i must be mad [ thats another story i might share one day]. She was right and i was so glad that she was blunt with me, instead of allowing me to believe doubts.
So yeah. Be Honest. Be Happy.
Beccccaa x
Thought i'd just comment on Bekka's blog last night. I completly get what she means. Sometimes it's best just to be honest, especially with your best mates. We had a similar conversation a few nights ago and we realised that we are truely best mates and i wouldn't change anything, if you can't be yourself with your best mate are you true around everyone else?
The other night i asked bekka about what should i do about this one guy and she told me if i still liked him after everything and i know what he's like then i must be mad [ thats another story i might share one day]. She was right and i was so glad that she was blunt with me, instead of allowing me to believe doubts.
So yeah. Be Honest. Be Happy.
Beccccaa x
Sunday 16 August 2009
Sunday August 16 - 21.45
Hey.
Its Bekka.
Im down in England just now on holiday with my family. And I've been doing a lot of thinking.
You know what really bugs me ? When people blow things totally out of proportion. It's so silly. That's how people get hurt and upset and things get ruined. I know this better than anyone I think. I've really learned my lesson after I lost two of my closest mates cause things got totally out of hand. What started of as a tiny mistake got made into a huge crime and everything just went belly up. And to be honest I think it was partly my fault cause I'm too proud of myself and wouldn't admit I was wrong. I'm like that though. I hate admitting that I'm wrong. I'm sure a lot of you are like that.
Sometimes you get into a situation where it's better if you just admit that you were in the wrong and that you're the one that's done bad instead of trying to cover for yourself or turn the blame around. As the saying goes, 'honesty is the best policy'. And there's no point making a mountain out of a mole hill so to speak cause that is really when things start to go wrong.
Think of this, Kate and Sarah are best mates. They plan a night out. Kate phones Sarah last minute and cancels, saying something has come up. Sarah doesn't believe her and thinks Kate must be annoyed at her.
Maybe something really has come up. Or maybe Kate just doesn't feel like going out and doesn't wanna hurt Sarah's feelings by saying so. But at the end of the day, Sarah shouldn't be getting paranoid about it. I'm sure there'll be other nights you can go out. And if something has come up, fair enough, but if Kate just didn't wanna go out, she should have just said so.
There's proof, don't lie just tell the truth it makes life so much more easy.
If your friends are true friends they won't mind you cancelling cause you don't feel like going out. And if they really are true friends they won't mind you telling them the truth, even if it is slightly harsh.
I'm honest with Becca all the time and look at us. If she tries on a dress and it looks crap, I'll tell her instead of saying it looks good to keep her happy. If she's being daft and needs a kick up the backside to make her realise she's being stupid, I'll give her a kick up the butt.
It sometimes takes the harsh truth to make things better.
So to conclude this wee rant I'm having here, tell the truth all the time and when you're wrong, swallow your pride and admit to it.
Take it from an 'expert' it really is best to be honest and try not to take things out of hand cause in the long run it will ruin friendships.
Beks x
Its Bekka.
Im down in England just now on holiday with my family. And I've been doing a lot of thinking.
You know what really bugs me ? When people blow things totally out of proportion. It's so silly. That's how people get hurt and upset and things get ruined. I know this better than anyone I think. I've really learned my lesson after I lost two of my closest mates cause things got totally out of hand. What started of as a tiny mistake got made into a huge crime and everything just went belly up. And to be honest I think it was partly my fault cause I'm too proud of myself and wouldn't admit I was wrong. I'm like that though. I hate admitting that I'm wrong. I'm sure a lot of you are like that.
Sometimes you get into a situation where it's better if you just admit that you were in the wrong and that you're the one that's done bad instead of trying to cover for yourself or turn the blame around. As the saying goes, 'honesty is the best policy'. And there's no point making a mountain out of a mole hill so to speak cause that is really when things start to go wrong.
Think of this, Kate and Sarah are best mates. They plan a night out. Kate phones Sarah last minute and cancels, saying something has come up. Sarah doesn't believe her and thinks Kate must be annoyed at her.
Maybe something really has come up. Or maybe Kate just doesn't feel like going out and doesn't wanna hurt Sarah's feelings by saying so. But at the end of the day, Sarah shouldn't be getting paranoid about it. I'm sure there'll be other nights you can go out. And if something has come up, fair enough, but if Kate just didn't wanna go out, she should have just said so.
There's proof, don't lie just tell the truth it makes life so much more easy.
If your friends are true friends they won't mind you cancelling cause you don't feel like going out. And if they really are true friends they won't mind you telling them the truth, even if it is slightly harsh.
I'm honest with Becca all the time and look at us. If she tries on a dress and it looks crap, I'll tell her instead of saying it looks good to keep her happy. If she's being daft and needs a kick up the backside to make her realise she's being stupid, I'll give her a kick up the butt.
It sometimes takes the harsh truth to make things better.
So to conclude this wee rant I'm having here, tell the truth all the time and when you're wrong, swallow your pride and admit to it.
Take it from an 'expert' it really is best to be honest and try not to take things out of hand cause in the long run it will ruin friendships.
Beks x
Saturday 15 August 2009
15th August 5.15pm
What is it about parents and their kids that say that they always have to have some form of argument?
I don't get personally.
I mean one feels crap so they take it out on everyone else on whatever small thing they can find.
Or something thats so clearly an accident becomes a problem.
Is there a need for any of it?
Isn't it possible that we don't need to resolve to a shouting match over everything?
You'd think it would be. Everyone is the same age at some stage right?
I mean sure theres' respect and we're all meant to respect our parents and our elders but doesn't these things work two ways? Treat others like you want to be treated, a wise thing i learnt at primary school.
I sometimes think after i've had an argument with my mum or dad, was there any need for it? Teens are given such a bad name when it comes to disrespecting people but what people say about us is sometimes totally wrong and prejudiced. Isn't that the same thing, just swapped about?
People say that communication is key to keeping a good relationship, shouldn't we apply that to our family as well?
Sometimes we just need to stop and think.
Becka x
I don't get personally.
I mean one feels crap so they take it out on everyone else on whatever small thing they can find.
Or something thats so clearly an accident becomes a problem.
Is there a need for any of it?
Isn't it possible that we don't need to resolve to a shouting match over everything?
You'd think it would be. Everyone is the same age at some stage right?
I mean sure theres' respect and we're all meant to respect our parents and our elders but doesn't these things work two ways? Treat others like you want to be treated, a wise thing i learnt at primary school.
I sometimes think after i've had an argument with my mum or dad, was there any need for it? Teens are given such a bad name when it comes to disrespecting people but what people say about us is sometimes totally wrong and prejudiced. Isn't that the same thing, just swapped about?
People say that communication is key to keeping a good relationship, shouldn't we apply that to our family as well?
Sometimes we just need to stop and think.
Becka x
Thursday 6 August 2009
6th August 12.52am
Hey.
How is everyone?
I just thought i'd leave a wee post cause im having quite an interesting conversation with my mates.
So, what makes a perfect best mate?
Is it their intuition to know when something is wrong without you saying anything?
Or the fact they tell you the blunt honest truth, knowing you need to hear it.
The way you could call them at 4 in the morning an they wouldnt hang up on you?
Or the way you call them a hippo and they laugh with you and don't kill you?
The way they help with guys and wouldn't go out with your ex?
Or you have a class next and you need the homework, so they help?
Or is it that you can go to them about anything and they'll be there for you?
These are just a few things we could ask ourselves but we have intuition to know when someone is our best mate. We don't need to be told. We don't need to use cliches to describe our mates. The world was built on originality, so why fall back on used thoughts now?
A mate of Bekka and I's said to us: You're each one half of Becka. Your the one's trying to change what we live in.
And it's true.
We want to make a difference together.
Becka x
How is everyone?
I just thought i'd leave a wee post cause im having quite an interesting conversation with my mates.
So, what makes a perfect best mate?
Is it their intuition to know when something is wrong without you saying anything?
Or the fact they tell you the blunt honest truth, knowing you need to hear it.
The way you could call them at 4 in the morning an they wouldnt hang up on you?
Or the way you call them a hippo and they laugh with you and don't kill you?
The way they help with guys and wouldn't go out with your ex?
Or you have a class next and you need the homework, so they help?
Or is it that you can go to them about anything and they'll be there for you?
These are just a few things we could ask ourselves but we have intuition to know when someone is our best mate. We don't need to be told. We don't need to use cliches to describe our mates. The world was built on originality, so why fall back on used thoughts now?
A mate of Bekka and I's said to us: You're each one half of Becka. Your the one's trying to change what we live in.
And it's true.
We want to make a difference together.
Becka x
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